How to Speak So That People Want to Listen?
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Here is a clip that offers nugget of wisdom and practical advice. We love talking but it is very disappointing if you felt like nobody is listening. It’s like you’re talking to the trees, to the chairs, or to cars. No feelings! Speaker and author Julian Treasure gave a popular TED Talk last year and shared good, practical, and doable tips on how anyone can speak effectively, whether in a small conversation or in front of a huge crowd. Talking is influencing so spend few minutes of your time as Julian Treasure tackles the subject: “How to Speak So That People Want to Listen.“
Seven deadly sins of speaking
1. Gossiping – speaking ill of someone who is not present. It will not take a little while until that person will gossip about you.
2. Judging – If you fill your conversations with judgments of others, you’re making the person you’re speaking with self-conscious of being judged themselves. They will be afraid to open up to you and may shut down completely.
3. Negativity – Treasure relates: “My mother, in the last years of her life, became very, very negative, and it’s hard to listen,” he says. “I remember one day, I said to her, ‘It’s October 1 today,’ and she said, ‘I know, isn’t it dreadful?’” It’s hard to listen with that negativity.
4. Complaining – the national art of UK? Funny! He calls it it “viral misery.” We don’t listen to people who complains about the weather, the news, work, and everything else.
5. Excuses – Some people have a “blame thrower.” They just pass on to someone else don’t take responsibility in times of failure.
6. Exaggeration – Exaggeration “demeans our language,” Treasure says. Adding dramatic flair is essentially a form of lying. We don’t want to listen to people we know are lying to us.
7. Dogmatism – Being dogmatic which we tend to mixed up of opinions and facts become confused and dangerous. It like listening to the wind. It’s difficult to listen.